When I think back on the many trials and tribulations I endured, I realize that I developed a coping mechanism, or a way to not give any validity to a pity party for any of the things that were happening to me. I affectionately describe that as "feathers on my back" so the things roll right off.
I'm human! Today I have this hard exterior, which is armour to protect the sensitive little girl that's inside me.
You see, I was THEE MOST SENSITIVE GIRL in the WORLD! I still am, it's just packaged differently. I would cry if someone I loved looked at me wrong, talked about my shirt, or was mean to me. The pain I felt was unbearable, yet I was ridiculed because "that was nothing to cry about". Nicknamed "crybaby," Feathers started growing. I remember my mom bragging that she just has to look or yell at me to cry, she didn't have to whoop me. Even though she did!
Fast forward to getting in a relationship where my husband was an abuser and a womanizer. How do you still live, raise kids, and fight your husband, annnd have a pity party? Or dance in a strip club supporting the entire family because your husband won't work? Or while a dancer, have a run in with FBI, Secret Service, and DEA, all within a year? Or what about being shot, and stood over, with the gunman intending to kill you?
Surely the happy life didn't find me, I created it. The life of struggle and despair found me. I learned how to reject it and make choices toward the life I wanted to live. I chose God. I chose life. I chose happiness. I chose freedom. I chose me. I'm still choosing me and happiness which is why who you see today doesn't resemble the woman I used to be. I've been through so much in THIS LIFE, it feels like I have lived several lives this lifetime. I am sure God has everything to do with my strength and tenacity. The woman you see today has been transformed. By life and choices. #HowRebelRobbWasBorn
People always ask me, "Why are you so tough?" Well, I am the third child. The first girl. Basically the third boy.
My second older brother, James, was the one who I credit for making me physically tough. My brothers treated me like a little brother. My brother James would make me fight his friend's little brothers, betting that his little sister would win. His friends were actually dumb enough to take the challenges, and I won!
For as long as I can remember, I have been fighting. Specifically boys, for my entire adolescent years, some girls in my teenage years, but still mostly boys, a few women in my adult life and my husband. Sometimes I wouldn't want to fight and all my brother had to do was say he would beat me up, and that was enough to make me fight. I was scared of my brother! All of this was before age 10. I fought almost daily from age 4 to 10. That's a lot of stress for a child. My mother knew nothing. Smh. That training made me a bully's bully. It's why I'm such an Activist today.
As I got older, I was the type to never start anything, but I would finish it!! Finite! Done! I protected my friends and anyone who was being picked on. It was my pleasure to handle a bully. I was notorious for going to people's houses. Thank God nothing ever happened to me. 💯 🙏Looking back, that training was crucial and intricate knowledge #RebelRobbneeded!
There were so many people that I would eventually meet that would need me to be a 'fighter" for them, their rights, their very lives. And I had to, there was simply no other choice. Through it all, life has taught me only the strong survives. Guess what, you're STRONG too.
With as many memes, meme makers and #Reposts of positive messages, quotes, ways of life, and general ways to find happiness, you would think people are truly getting it. But the sad truth is there are so many hurt and victimized souls, not knowing how to properly process or deal with the incidents or events throughout their lives that created the hurt. They want to hide certain things they've experienced so they're not judged by people. They keep up this facade of I'm invincible.
I'm here to tell you that it is not healthy. I learned to stop giving myself pity parties when things started off crazy in my adult life. Right at age 18, I was raped. He was a 'friend' of mine and yes, weed and alcohol involved but it doesn't make it OK nor make me responsible for the sexual violence that happened.
Adding insult to injury, I didn't get no support from my "boyfriend " at the time who didn't believe me. That's not the only thing. I left home right after high school graduation thinking I was in love so to top it off, I was also living in a crack house and selling crack to survive in college. Coming from a 'poor mentality' my parents biggest cares were fighting over child support rather than supporting me in my educational goals. I had no grants, it was too late to sign up for the dorms and just being on an academic scholarship didn't provide enough extra funds. I cared about being in college. My parents didn't push me. I did.
I'm not a victim. I am a survivor. I did not cower in survival situations, I made a way. Instead of crying, I grew. I learned what to do and what not to do. As far out as the choices were, they were presented and I chose those lessons. I am as strong and resilient as I am today because of each and every one of those incidents or events in my life. I took control of life. I didn't let it control me. I could have been a statistic easy, a few times over actually ... Nahhh... Not a chance. You see, the way my God is set up!! I love who I am. 😇 😆💕👑💖 #Blessed #Trappin#College #Rape #HowRebelRobbWasBorn💯#MYTRUTH
I follow a lot of inspirational people, and I surely consider myself inspirational as well. What I KNOW is that I LIVED life, MADE STUPID MISTAKES, LEARNED from them and used it as knowledge and applied it to my life. If you haven't yet applied, or you're still making mistakes, God is still with you and it isn't too late.
This is coming from the girl who lived in a trap house in college. And the girl who danced for a living and met the #911 terrorist in my strip club. And the girl who went got scooped up by the Secret Service for receiving counterfeit money at the club, amongst other things. Yes, all of this is true.
Clearly this is not my life today, but as you can see I sure learned from those mistakes and became a ROLE MODEL. Not someone telling you to do right because it's good, but someone who did wrong and knows first hand the lessons.
Have a blessed week y'all. Today is the first day of the rest of your life. 💯✌ #RebelRobb 💯👑👀👑😇 #Homelessness #Trappin #Stripping #HowRebelRobbWasBorn #LatishaRobb
By: L. Renee Robb, Author “Turn on the Lights (So You Can See)” and “What You Don’t Know About Your Soul”
With all the talk about government officials in Flint, no one is talking about how to actually help Flint residents get the lead out of their systems.
As a mother, a taxpayer, a business owner and so many other titles, I get a feeling of distress when there is something of this magnitude affecting my community (I just organized a protest in Atlanta over a racist dry cleaning business in a predominantly Black neighborhood called Ben Hill.) There is no way I can sit on the sidelines and do nothing. The same as many of you are feeling. So, with the Might of God behind me, I’ve done what has been asked. I've donated money and water, yet still, it doesn't feel like that’s enough. As a community, we are lacking knowledge. The old adage, “knowledge is power’ is 100 percent true. We are also lacking the reflexreaction of “do something”! We’ve got to stop waiting on the sidelines for others to step up to the plate and start doing for ourselves.
That leads me to this...did you know, you can remove the toxins of lead from your body naturally? I’ve been on a healthconscious kick for over 5 years. Genetically, I have a small frame but I started getting healthy after the birth of my youngest daughter because I would break out in skin rashes while breastfeeding. I started to drink water and noticed a change in my skin after a couple of weeks. I routinely detox with a concoction of water, lemons, cucumbers and onions so it’s right up my alley to share what I know. Also, my good friend, Dr. Joy Edwards RN, NMD, PHD, MPH, practices holistic medicine and I often seek her out as it pertains to natural remedies. As it relates to treating lead poisoning, she shares, "When discussing the potential treatment of lead poisoning one must first know what some of the signs and symptoms of lead poisoning are. One issue with this particular condition is that sometimes the symptoms are hard to identify or may be asymptomatic until the damage is actually done. However, there are things you can do now to start removing lead from your body.
The first course of action, is to get a blood test to measure the amount of lead in your blood. Once you get the results, you can proceed with treatments. “There are different treatments depending on your level of lead toxicity. The treatment also is based on if you are still in the contaminated area consuming the lead or if you are no longer exposed to the lead. Such as in cases of lead dust ,or lead paint consumption, exposure, water contamination etc.”, shares Dr. Edwards. “According to the Normative aging study, it suggests that low intake of Vitamin D and Vitamin C may contribute to higher lead levels in elderly and middle age consumers.” Increasing your intake of Vitamin C rich foods and taking a vitamin D supplement and consuming foods fortified with Vitamin D can assist with the bodies natural ability to remove lead from the body.
You should also increase your calcium and Iron rich food intake, and use supplements that can assist with detoxing. Dr. Edwards explains, “These are things that will assist your body over time to remove lead levels. Any form of oral chelation is not an immediate fix so one must be careful if your child is exhibiting symptoms that are presenting as a sore throat, irritability, stomachache and you are aware that they have been exposed to lead.”
She recommends some easy low cost ways to detox naturally with simple items from the grocery store.
● Cilantro can be put into your bottle water and consumed 34 times daily(take 3 stalks per bottle water).
○ you can also just chew cilantro or make a garnish on your food..
● Kale greens can be cooked or consumed raw and taken daily
● Spinach added to your eggs, spinach salads or spinach cooked with garlic with a little bit of water in a pan daily. (if you are on certain medications you may have a limit to how many servings you can have of green leafy vegetables. Please consult your physician). These greens can reduce buildup of lead in your body along with other heavy metals.
*It is important to note that one should not eat canned vegetables or any canned foods as a substitute as they are filled with unnatural preservatives.
● Cook with garlic and onions daily if possible. (this helps the liver detoxify itself of heavy metals such as lead daily).
● 8 oz vegetable juice is also another healthy option daily(not canned) every two hours or filtered bottled water every two hours to flush out toxins daily. (this is great when you have continued exposure to reduce buildup)
I use the following supplemental routine to detox prescribed by Dr. Joy Edwards. Keep in mind this is not to replace medical care but a preventative and complementary way to assist with the detoxification process.
● Chlorella 48 caps daily
● Vitamin C 3000mg daily.
● Probiotics 50 billion units daily
● Milk Thistle 150 mg 2x daily
● Vitamin D 1000 ius 3 tabs daily
Conveniently, these products can be purchased low cost at your area drugstore.
While sending bottled water is good, I think sponsorships from water filtration companies, health food stores, and wellness centers should consider donations and services to the residents of Flint. The grocery store is a great place to get a lot of the above recommended natural preventative ingredients. Also recognizing key symptoms in children is important and you can find that on my blog at www.latisharobb.com.
I simply want to do my part and share my knowledge. When we know better, we can do better.
Latisha Robb is an Activist, Speaker and Author of “Turn on the Lights (So You Can See)” and “What You Don’t Know About Your Soul” she speaks regularly about success and personal development. A true activist, you can find her in support of initiatives to advance African Americans and the plight of #BlackLivesMatter. www.LatishaRobb.com.