In my book, What You Don't Know About Your Soul, I talk about Time and Ages, and give a spherical picture of time rather than the linear one that we are accustomed to. When talking about the ages, I wrote about the last 6 ages, (ones that we have record of), and each of their characteristics and contributions to the world at large. Ages represent a zodiac sign.
In the Age of Gemini, (6,000-3,800 BCE) the world experienced the development of the first written languages and establishment of villages and communities. The sign Gemini rules communication and speech. It is no coincidence that this age marked these milestones and developments. Gemini, being an "Air Sign", makes it natural to imagine communication spreading like the cool breeze over a mass of land.
Right now, the sun is exiting Taurus, and is almost in the sign of Gemini, my astrological sign, and I wanted to highlight some amazing little known facts about the Gemini person and their soul. I know first hand what happens to a Gemini, how they are filled with energy that needs to be channeled and have a duty to communicate, and teach.
One thing that is common and present in all Geminis: Energy. A natural nervous energy that needs to be harnessed because it can be extreme. It is infectious and powerful. Geminis thrive when they're able to express themselves uncensored, and have constant, meaningful, soul growing changes. They love challenges and accolades. Forward motion and activity are critical for the communicative and expressive Gemini.
Here are the names of some famous Gemini people that you may recognize:
Prince, Kendrick Lamar, Tupac, Marilyn Monroe, Angelina Jolie, John F Kennedy, Paul McCartney,Che Guevara, Joan Rivers, Lenny Kravitz, Lisa "LeftEye" Lopes.
When I read this list of names, I began to see the similarities between them all. First, I see very attractive people. I see people who have a unique God given beauty. With this beauty, they aren't arrogant or narcissistic, yet they are unapologetic.
I see a group of headstrong individuals who had purpose. A group of communicators who knew of a spiritual connection to our worlds. Most of the people named above were/are entertainers, yet there is a message given while they are entertaining.
The musicians speak in a rebellious way toward injustices, speaking life and hope in their songs while giving praise to God. Geminis are revolutionaries, military leaders, Presidents, Philanthropists, humanitarians, and extraordinarily talented. All at the same time! Gemini's are usually ahead of their time, and, as the first written language, takes years to discover ALL of the true magic in their masterpieces.
Now, were Prince and Tupac twins? Absolutely! They were true Geminis! Mutable, and flexible, clever and witty, interested and interesting, self expressive, and dual natured, passion and passionate. TWINS. The hallmark of a true Gemini.
Prince and Tupac were rare gifts to this earth. Prince had an understanding and faith beyond earthly comprehension, and while the world was caught up in how gorgeous he was, Prince was concerned about purpose work, and helping others.
Tupac was not your average "thug". He was a very smart and passionate man who was on the verge of blossoming into a true leader in the movement. At just 21, he had the people in his hand like Fred Hampton of the Black Panthers. In interviews he always was speaking and dropping jewels on social injustices and the system, poverty, and the black community in general.
Thank God for allowing their presence and continued essence. Thank God for Geminis!
Every sign has its markers and elements. If you're not sure about yours, look it up. You'll be surprised at how much makes sense for you and make sure to purchase my book, to learn more about the Ages and other things you may not know about your soul.
Mother's Day is coming up, and it always reminds me of what kind of mother I am. How did I get here? It's definitely a time for reflection. I feel as though I am exceptionally experienced as a mother, as I have my own children, step children, and God child.
I was tasked as an 18 year old to be a mother of 3 kids. I wasn't asked. They were left alone with me for months. What was a girl to do? Cry? Give up? Take them to who? No one was available, no one cared, and they had scabies. I quickly learned to handle my business. They were innocent and didn't deserve the early life and family they were born to.
No matter how much of a deadbeat their dad was, and their mother, I had to make sure I was the constant. Subconsciously, I knew I had to be a part of their lives forever to show them that some people actually care and will be there for you.
When I became the mother of my own child, their sister, she just became a part of the pack, as I then had four kids. I never showed favoritism, I treated them all the same, and I gave them some of the best years of my life. I knew they wouldn't be kids forever, and they needed my guidance and love since their birth families didn't seem to care.
I must admit, their needs (step-daughters) were taken into consideration a lot, emotionally and mentally, and I made sure I kept open communication with them. Even though I didn’t show favoritism, there was an unspoken loyalty that my step-daughters had between themselves and would exclude my daughter, their sister. I think it had to do with the fact they had the same mom and dad, while my daughter only shared their dad. I believe they were jealous of her. Subconsciously. She had her mom in her life. Her Mom was a good mom and consistent. Everything their mom wasn’t.
My daughter struggled with this silently for a while, then as she got older she would express her feelings about her sisters and the way they treated her. It made me mad to the core at times because how dare they treat my daughter any differently because they were born to deadbeats?! How dare you treat my daughter differently when it was HER mother taking care of you? In my mind I was mad, in my spirit, I understood, and how I handled it was making them accountable for their actions and made sure they knew I saw what was going on.
Being a Natural Mom, a Stepmom, and a God Mom, I’ve learned a lot about myself. Because I was a step mom first, I was given the opportunity to love children that weren’t mine before I had my own. I believe that helped shape what type of mom I am overall. Fair.
I am a fair mother. I believe in righteousness, and justice. 2016 marks the 20th year that the girls have been in my life. In 20 years of being a mother, I’ve been happy, sad, mad, frustrated, desperate, bewildered, proud, emotional, nervous, and faithful. I’m sure God has been there the entire time guiding me, ordering my steps, and keeping us.
One of the best things about being a stepmom is being a consistent person in their lives showing them that there are people who will love you and be there for you even though their parents were not. This can be a generational curse broken with my example in their lives. It makes me feel good to know I helped an entire generation. It also is a blessing to see them as adults, healthy and hopeful. They have a chance at life.
One of the emotional risks of being a stepmom is knowing that no matter what you do, they’re going to be loyal to you as long as they need you. When that need changes so does the loyalty. It happened with each of them, in different ways. It's sad to see people you've loved and nurtured as your own, act like their DNA. I do have hope for them all. I love them.
The youngest of my step daughters is doing very well for herself in Los Angeles. She and I have had some conversations recently that touched my soul in a way that made it worth it. She told me that she appreciates me raising her and giving her the example she needed to be a woman. She said she has the confidence to do it because of me. Until this very day, their birth mother is still struggling with drug use.
The best thing about being a Natural Mom is seeing MY SEEDs grow and flourish. Pouring all of my love into them, and creating little mini me’s that will be better than me. They are a part of me! There is a love and bond so special between mother’s and daughters and I love it . I have no worries about loyalty when it comes to my natural children. I know the family bond is solid and unbreakable. There is no downside to bring a natural mother. They will disappoint you, and you will love them no matter what.
Thinking about it, there are really no downsides to mothering anyone. Life in general is full of disappointments, yes, but it is also full of teaching moments that will help shape a generation. If I could do it all over again, I would do it all over again. My growth to this moment depended on that experience and I am enlightened beyond comprehension to some.
Knowing that I consciously poured my love and nurturing into the girls, consistently provided a safe haven, and relentlessly dropped knowledge, they have no choice but to be great somehow one day.
My Godson is like my son. The son I haven't had yet! He's 7 now, and the bond we have is sweet. He's been in my life since birth. He's still young, but similarly to step children, you have a "nature barrier" so all you can do is nurture, and love, and pray for the best.
I, for one, think Mother's day should graduate to a week, but who would make sure everything was moving smoothly? I love being a mom. It is the most rewarding job I've ever had in life. The lessons I've learned, the self discoveries, the spiritual and karmic connection, the struggle, the laughter, the tears, the memories, the love, #priceless
Happy Mother's Day to all the moms and step moms and god moms and aunts, and grandmothers taking care of children!
As I think back on my life and look with hindsight, I see clearly when there were some major moments that God was showing me that I needed to grow.
I was in an abusive marriage, raising kids that were not even my stepchildren, (I had my ex-husband's nephew, and his daughter's older sister from their mother), in addition to my husband's 3 girls.
At 22 years old, I was raising six kids, four of school age, and two under five. At the time, I was knee deep in dancing, my husband was knee deep in 'extra curricular' activities while I was at work, and I was the only one holding down our 8 person household.
A typical day started at 6:30 am. I got up and made sure breakfast was made. Got the kids dressed and fed and off to school. The babies woke up afterwards and they got their breakfast etc. If there was laundry or cleaning that needed to be done, I did that during the school hours. Around three in the afternoon, they were back from school, and it was time to help with homework.
Around 5pm dinner would be cooking and by 6:30 I was on my way to the strip club. I worked until 2am, didn't get home until 3am or 3:30am only to find my husband at home partying with his broke friends spending my money that I left home which I was trying to save. I was back up at 6:30am to do it again.
Here is the moment that saved my life and my kids. One night I had a VIVID dream. I went to bed. I was 22. I woke up and I was 30! Same bed, same house, same man, same life, and it SCARED THE LIVING DAYLIGHTS OUT OF ME! That day I really woke up and I planned my escape. It took me 45 days to make enough money to leave without alarming him of my planned secret escape. He was extremely crazy, and was already afraid I would leave him.
One time he jumped on the car when I was backing out of the driveway, and since I didn't stop, he punched the windshield, and smashed it so bad I couldn't see out of it. It could have scared my face! Witnessing my life through that dream if I stayed with him was a living nightmare, and the push I needed from God to realize my true destiny. I had all these kids, they had no one besides me, and it was so hard to make that decision on my own.
But I had to choose ME! I had no idea of what else was out there for me, but I was rushing to it because I knew what I was doing was NOT the life God intended for me. Leaving my husband was the beginning of me being set free. I am so grateful that God showed me something that would make me move. Everything works together for the greater good. I am who I am. I own what I've been through and I love me.
No matter where you find yourself today or where you've been. All things work for the good. Don't look for the world to give you love when all the love you'll ever need is right inside of you.