I am the type of "strong woman" that has been formed through the fire of life. I have been circumstantially thrusted into this role, as a single black woman in America, with daughters, and no strong male figures in my life. My ex husband's most noteworthy contribution to my life was his sperm. My dad was an excellent man, however, he was non- confrontational, and avoided things as best he could. My brothers had shown me early in life that I truly could not depend on them either. So what's a girl to do in this circumstantial situation?
My natural instinct is permanently set on survival. Like the dial is stuck. My essential self is a super sensitive soul, very emotional and pure. Due to the sensitive nature of my essence, I've created a buffer system to protect my inner child.
Although I am extremely proud of my accomplishments, I realize that the moves that I've made in life have separated me from the average. I don't mind being extraordinary, however, I do mind how people misinterpret "strength" as masculinity, and determine that "strong women" need less than "normal women".
I am a woman in every sense of the word. My deep desire is to be submissive to the right man. I imagine that there is one who truly sees ME, not just my deeds, and is not intimidated. He's willing to study me; to truly understand me wholeheartedly, and to love me unconditionally.
To me, divinely feminine is an essence of God. It is an intricate relationship with righteousness. It is a willingness to rebel against logic and social standards under the authority and guidance of wisdom, unapologetically. It's "Big Mama Energy". Wisdom is a divinely feminine energy. It must be courted and earned.
Being called a strong woman is not truly a compliment. It is a restraining box that us women who have been labeled, have to constantly redefine. It is a subconscious collective thoughtform that "strong women" are not like "normal women". We have to remind others that we are WOMEN, that we are the vessels of life, and although we know how to provide certain things, we too need to feel safe and protected. We need to be nurtured, we need to be allowed to express our emotions, and be loved for who we are. When a woman is loved for who she is, she is 10 times better. When she is loved correctly, she will help her mate and all around her thrive.
If you know a woman who fits the "strong woman" category, let her know that you're there for her. Let her know it's ok not to be strong all the time, and that you're there to help her dismantle that buffer system that hides and protects her heart. She will be eternally grateful that you see her.
With love and light,